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Career-Life Times, Issue #64--Job Interviews Make You Nervous?
January 19, 2010

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Issue No. 64 -- January 19, 2010

In This Issue:

  • A Personal Message From Bonnie
  • Job Interviews Make You Nervous?
  • Are Your Career Goals Stupid?
  • Resources
  • Worth Quoting
  • Just for Laughs

    A Personal Message From Bonnie

    Dear Friends,

    I hope you don't mind my getting a little more personal than usual, but with the new year getting underway, I've been doing a lot of thinking lately--and some of those thoughts may affect you.

    2009 was not a very good year for me. One of my brothers died in April; another died in October. My father nearly died in November (but survived thanks to open-heart surgery). Events such as these serve as a wake-up call, a reminder of what we all know but rarely think about: life is precious and short.

    While I love helping people by writing articles, producing this newsletter, maintaining my websites, and coaching job seekers, these activities are time-consuming; I've spent countless hours on them when I could have been spending time with my family.

    I believe the key is to find balance. Thanks primarily to the heartwarming responses I receive from so many of you, I'm not going to quit doing what I love. But I am going to make some changes. I think we'll all benefit from them.

    My objective for 2010 and beyond is to spend more time with my family, and yet continue to assist you with your career goals.

    As a matter of fact, I plan to do more than ever to help you get hired, get noticed, and get ahead.

    How will I do that?

    I'm not ready to reveal all the details of what I'm working on, but it will: (1) require less of my time because more helpers will be involved; and (2) be devoted to improving your career and work-life balance. HR departments used to help people with their career paths, but these days they're mostly benefits managers. And if you think about it, why would a corporate HR department actually think holistically about your career? Their goal is to hone you for THEIR company, not for a work life in the world of your choosing.

    Soon, I'll invite you to join me on a new adventure dedicated to helping you with that. I just wanted to share this with you now, because I'm pretty excited about the possibilities.

    I hope you stick with me in 2010. There's so much more to come.

    But for now? Just enjoy your family. Call friends you've haven't talked with in a long time. Reconnect.

    Most of all, have a healthy, happy and prosperous 2010!


    Job Interviews Make You Nervous?

    I write for a living because it's the form of communication I'm most comfortable with, especially when it comes to talking with strangers and groups of people. I'm better now, but for most of my early career I would get extremely nervous while giving a presentation or talking during on a job interview. I'd feel flushed. My palms would get sweaty. My heart would start pounding. I'd get so flustered that I would forget much of what I had planned to say.

    I learned to calm down by telling myself three things:

    1. As long as I smile, the people I'm talking to don't know I want to run screaming from the room. They can't feel the adrenalin rushing through my body or hear my heart pounding in my chest. And they have no idea that I meant to say more than I did.

    2. It doesn't really matter what they think. I'll still be me when this is over--and I like me. I'm a good person. I have a lot to offer. They'll either recognize and appreciate that, or they won't. If they won't, it will be their loss, not mine. I'll be fine.

    3. I also told myself beforehand that I was going to enjoy the experience; that it would be fun for me and for the people with whom I was sharing the experience. Regardless of the outcome, we'd all have a pleasant time. This made my smile genuine.

    I still get nervous, but now I experience a fluffy butterfly buzz rather than a screaming-elephant panic attack.

    Perhaps you can control your nervousness using those three methods.

    In addition, I've found a couple of helpful reports and obtained permission to share them with you for f*ree. Just click on the titles to read:

    Your Charisma Quotient

    How to Gain Confidence

    Are Your Career Goals Stupid?

    I recently read a great article by one of my favorite bloggers, Naomi Dunford of Naomi always has a unique perspective and a fun-to-read style (and quite a colorful vocabulary), so I've been a big fan for a long time.

    Her article I'm referring to here is titled How to Make Unstupid Goals.

    According to Naomi,

    "The biggest trick to goal setting is not mind mapping or list making or reading Oprah Magazine or every self-help book you’ve ever bought but never got around to taking out of the bag. The biggest trick to goal setting is… wait for it… setting your goals.

    "That sounds dumb, but it’s really not.

    "Because, see, most people focus on the setting and the goals, but they neglect the most important part:


    Think about your career goals (assuming you have any). Are they really yours?

    Or are you struggling through college because your mom wants you to be a doctor/lawyer (insert her desire for you here)? Are you working ridiculously long hours because your wife wants you to get a promotion? Are you busting your ass doing something you don't really enjoy because "they" have brainwashed you into believing that's the way to get ahead?

    Go read Naomi's article. (It's part of a great series.)

    Then go make better (unstupid) career goals!


    Untemplater. A friend of mine (Jun Loayza) told me about the launch of his fun new self-improvement website. I think it's going to be a big hit. It's called Untemplater and these are its goals:

    1. Help young professionals break free of the corporate cubicle and pursue a career that is fulfilling and profitable.

    2. Help undergraduates figure out the convergence of what they're the best in the world at, what they're passionate about, and what can make them money.

    3. Show people that it IS possible to support your family, do what you love, and accomplish all that you have ever wanted to do without putting your financial well-being in jeopardy.

    He (and his partners) offer a f*ree report that shares true-life stories of people determined to be "untemplaters." I've read it and it's good... although I gave Jun a hard time about it focusing too much on "young"--something I haven't been for quite some time. But in reality, anyone of any age can benefit from what this report and website have to offer.

    You can download the f*ree report (and enjoy lots of other f*ree content) here:

    New Job Board. Because I receive so many inquiries asking about job openings, I decided to incorporate a Job Board with my website. It's easy to use and offers information on current jobs in your area. Check it out here: Best Strategies Job Board This is my "new-and-improved" blog toy. Please pop in for a visit, feel free to comment on articles, and let me know what you think of the design:

    The Job Interview Success System. The job market is getting better, but it still sucks. You don't have to go it alone. Get step-by-step help and a big advantage over your competition with my System. Read all the details here: Job Interview Success System.

    Got a Job Interview? There's an App for That! I don't have an iPhone so I'm not recommending this (I don't know if it's any good), but I think it's funny. Among other things, this iPhone app allows you to "Create your interview by selecting questions from the master list. Then play the question and record your response." Can you imagine a job candidate during an interview holding up his iPhone and pressing "play" after a question is asked? (I know that's not the intent, but I wouldn't put it past some people!). Anyway, if you're into iPhone apps, go check it out: Job Interview iPhone App.

    Worth Quoting

    "Don't tell me how hard you work.
    Tell me how much you get done."
    ~ James Ling

    Just for Laughs

    A Sheriff pulled up next to a guy unloading garbage out of his pick-up into the ditch. The Sheriff asked, "Why are you dumping garbage in the ditch? Didn't you see that sign right over your head?"

    "Yep," the guy replied. "That's why I'm dumpin' it here, cuz it says 'Fine For Dumping Garbage'."

    So, what did you think of this issue? Any suggestions? Topic ideas? Questions? I really appreciate your feedback. Please send me a note at

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